The Interview for Marriage

                             

Passing the interview was an important part of the process that a girl needed to get through in order to get married in the olden days.  By ‘Interview’ I meant the practice wherein the guy and his family would pay a visit to the girl’s house with their check-list to check how many were getting satisfied by the girl so that she would be selected.  If she met most of them she would be considered selected and will be okayed for the marriage with certain conditions.  This practice still exists in our society subtly. Even today when women have made their mark in different fields of life they are still required to get through the interview process.  We often see many men claiming themselves to be teetotalers and yet insist on meeting the girl in the CCD, Starbucks or somewhere alike where they could discuss things to check for compatibility.  I have many friends who did tell me their experiences about such dates which ended in a disappointment.  The only benefit that they had was that their neighbors did not get to know about this visit and failure. 

Many questions still seems to be common even today like “do you cook?”, “will you quit your job post marriage”, “do you have an affair” etc.  Women today are far more independent financially and socially and expect to be treated equally.  A deep understanding need to be developed about the issue and the marriage selection process must move to a different level where one searches for his or her soul mate and the marriage becomes a celebration for the lifetime.